I think you've got this all mixed up , she's a woman who only wanted her relationship with kodi to mean something who's now realised it meant nothing to him till he helped her move out ! Talk about mixed messages. She also doesn't have an easy time mixing with larger crowds where there are obviously people there , tgat fong want HER there. This puts her defences up and she reacts with that in mind. She's not being aggressive, ively or otherwise, she puts herself as the brunt of her self deprecating jokes no one else. Maybe you need to look more closely or maybe it just takes someone else whose been in a similar situation as Meri, to know how she works . She would love to be more secure in herself ,bug has consistently been the outsider !